Age is just a number? Or is it? Brain science facts!!



Age is just a number? Or is it?  Brain science facts!!

“Height is just a number” Kevin HART

There is absolutely no doubt that 40. 50, even 80 is not the same as it was for your parents! 

Of course there will always be people too lazy, uninformed OR unmotivated to stay young. There are 35/40 years olds who might as well be in their 60s/70s in terms of health, attitude, lifestyle and most importantly their thinking.  I work with many clients who struggle with being disconnected to the number on their birth certificate and/or the person in the mirror; especially when it comes to ‘age’

Women get pressured about having babies when they are 40+….. seriously back in the days when our lifespan and general health was way worse; when people married young; yes they had their first child at 18 BUT they  often had a lot of kids and were giving birth to their last one in their 40s or later.

People like Rachel Welch, George Clooney, Denzel and many others,  certainly give their ‘age-peers’ a good rep.   Jennifer Aniston is rockin a 45 year old body that would make any 20 years old jealous (see movie The Millers)

People will say, just tell me, it’s just a number, it doesn’t matter! (If it doesn’t matter why do people press so much to find out?).  Oh and on this subject Never, Never, answer (or ask) the question ‘ how many sexual partners have you had?’ because there is never going to be a good answer for either of you! And once asked you cannot un-ask!

Fact is your BRAIN CHEMISTRY decides how you will process certain information; once you know something you can’t then un-know it. Often people in relationships think they should tell each other every nitty gritty bit of info from their past, their deepest nooks and crannies of their mind…..

There is certainly such thing as too much information!

When you receive information your brain automatically searches through your billions of reference points on your hard-drive and allocates certain pre conceived ‘facts’ (more like stats than facts really)to your current situation. Sorry this means you too, unless you’re from another planet and don’t fit into brain science facts on this one.



Photo: Treeman by Michael PETCHKOVSKY (Australia)



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Life so simple until we grow up and make it complicated!

Image  As a kid you work on emotional knowing (which isn’t knowledge)and it is sometimes right and sometimes wrong: As an adult you go out and acquire ‘knowledge’ which is sometimes right and sometimes wrong! I really upset one of my philosophy professors when I said that we do not really ‘know’ very much at all and that no one really knows where we started****, we have beliefs, some of us have faith, but many of the things we ‘know’ are no more credible in the long term than when we ‘knew’ the world was flat.  If you experience something then you know that it happened, you were there, you weren’t drunk or on drugs so your pretty sure what you experienced; others may or may not believe you but they cannot ‘know’ for sure!  One difference I guess is that no matter how much energy is put into knowing something you wont usually make it so. However, putting energy into what you believe can and often does make it manifest!  Yes that sounds like gobbledygook! 

Unless you have practiced meditating, programming your mind, visualization, prayer (whatever label works for you: personally I try not to get hung up on labels).  At the end of the day ‘believing’ give you hope and hope is what gets you over the line.

Sadly being a psychologist for so many years means I have seen a number of completed suicides! They cannot talk about their last moments.  Those that almost completed their suicide attempt all say the one same thing: at the end it wasn’t that they had run out of money, friends, love etc.: every one of them said it was because they had given up HOPE!

***As a child  no matter how people explained our origins to me, the 1 question that drove me nuts was ‘But where did the nothingness before that come from??’  Now I just tell myself that when our brains evolve more we will be able to answer that question!

…..Why is getting a tattoo less painful than going to the dentist? © No Brain No Pain (part 2)


So you have been practicing the techniques from Part 1.  You now know you have a lot of control over your body; you can also see the link between your mind and your physiological responses right! 
Part two of the earlier exercise: (DO NOT START ON THIS IF YOU HAVE NOT PRACTICED THE FIRST PART) I want you to find a pain that you are experiencing now: focus on it with everything you have and MAKE IT WORSE!

Yup I said increase your pain! Trust me on this: Your brain is actually highly experienced in increasing your pain levels in various situtions. In fact we are pretty good at increasing lots of undesirable stuff in our lives; just by using our brain the wrong way. So practice this over and over: Increase – hold – and return to where it was. You know how to do it! Think it! Do it! Think it! Do it! (Just like Homer)
We are talking long term pain and long term results so please resist the urge to go to the next stage too soon: I want you to practice this for as long as it takes for you to feel the exhilaration of knowing you can control you body in this way. Even though it hurts; really do look on the up side of this! When you reach this point (not before) you are ready to have a little talk to your brain: You have established that your brain controls every part of you body! You have just provided yourself with definitive evidence that you can increase your pain levels. Logical conclusion? You can now start to reduce, turn down the levels, of your pain! Remember mentally getting rid of the pain may not mean you can throw away your stick or get out of the wheelchair (it doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t either) but essentially we are saying that you know what you need to know about the damage; you do what is necessary, like not running on a sprained ankle: So Brain…we got the memo!… we know what the pain message was for and now we do not need it! You now have the tools to minimize your pain but like everything else in your toolbox: It only works if you use it! Many clients tried this, they did not believe it would work, but they trusted me, results varied BUT everyone got results!
NO I am not saying you are faking it OR its all in your head….OK well actually I am saying its largely in our heads! But you need to take that in context!
OH. The tattoo, well you already worked out the answer by now! People work up a pretty strong expectation of pain from the Dentist. When we get tattoos we have a totally different mindset! ©